Practicing with a person whom you feel safe with is important, because, to be honest, violence against children is frightening and often triggering for many of us. If all you know how to do is give commands and use punishments to enforce them, then the problem is that you lack parenting skills, not the child. We may feel embarrassed or fear we may cause some sort of retaliation. I'd know, I got beat with one for serious offenses like cussing AT my parents or grandparents. So, imagine what would he think of you.
Spanking A Child: Should You Or Shouldn't You?
There is no "one size fits all" when it comes to a discipline technique that works with children. This is not a good article science wise. I was worse than they were. I'm not going to tell my preteen to stop monopolizing the conversation right in front of her friends, but I might pull her aside and tell her quietly, for example. Maybe you live over a rainbow, but not all kids are good kids. She was told once, however, that if she hit her mom in front of me again, that line will have been crossed.
When I Babysit, Do I Have to Spank Kids if Parents Ask Me to?
Do you believe every single thing you read? Parents should also tell their kids why the behavior was wrong, preferably when everybody has had a chance to calm down. And even if you don't live in the U. Spanking Submitted by Elaine on November 27, - 9: Abusing a vulnerable child is always, and extremely, damaging and wrong.
So yes, I agree that spanking and any form of terrorizing a child, physically and emotionally, particularly when the adult is angry at the child, is not parenting, it's just expressing one's own rage at a convenient, helpless target. That is nothing but bullying, not parenting. It's hard to love someone who scares the crap out of you and blames you for "making her" physically assault you. How To Discipline Child ]. Whether once in a while, or rarely, spanking hurts the child physically.